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People say women have it all now... we can study, work, speak.
But patriarchy isn't always loud. Sometimes, it just blends in: like being told to sit properly while your brother lounges, or being expected to help in the kitchen while he plays outside. It’s in being taught how to serve tea with a smile, while no one teaches boys to lift a plate. It’s in checking the clock when you’re out late, fixing your top when walking past a group of boys, being called “too much” just for having a voice.
 
It’s in coming home tired from work and still being expected to do all the housework and childcare while he lounges on the couch. And if he joins in once in a while... Suddenly he's the best father of the year, like he hasn't done something bare minimum.
 
Patriarchy didn’t disappear.
It just got softer, smarter, harder to name.
But we feel it every single day, in a hundred little ways...
Pro Palestine
Anti isr*al
STRAIGHT 😀
Woman 🦢

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BiNShy
BiNShy·1 year ago
@Zozo I really hate when women in particular say "we don't need feminism" until femicide, forced marriages, misogyny and the pay gap disappears then we'll always need feminism
@Zozo wait-
i've maybe read almost the exact same text before???? I think after a 17 yro tiktokers murder in her own home in Pakistan?
@Zozo i fuc**** hate it. Like i do the house chores and sh** ,my brother doesnt lift his finger until i call to help me!!! like cant u see me struggling on my own!!! 
He doesnt do sh** my parents tell him to do and i dont see my parents shouting back at him. 
But if i was the one doing it?? they shout sh** to my face. And even though i do the chores they say i don't(so really stopped doing those chores). And if someone is struggling infront me while i am too struggling with my own work, i just have to abandon my fuc**** work to help THEM. Plus they always talk with so much affection and care with him even when he anger outbursted at them, me? they say i'm emotional being too sensitive and its my fault that even though its their fault and they say 'women have it easy. they just need to marry a guy and do work at his home'. Is he marrying a free housekeep.?????
@pink yea I copied it from an article written by a woman generalist, speaking on the same matter
@Zozo This is a way to see the world, yet that's another stereotype that some women refuse to let go because that works for them, I mean, if you want to talk about silent domination, let's talk about how men are still in this day being "brainwashed" (using a strong word) about how women should be treated, let me put a few examples:
1.Dont hit a woman: Like, why tho? seriously, do you think I'll hit a dude just because? the same goes with women, if they don't do anything that merits a hit, then I won't hit (notice how I said "they" because this applies to both sides) and I know that there will be people saying "but men abuses of their wives and you can see reports on that" and so on, let me tell you something, men also suffer from their wives and if the dude reports, you will be only beleived if you have strong proof.
2.Be a gentleman: Let's put here al the "nice" things we are told to do for a woman (open the car for her, be super attentive, etc.) and this point demonstrates how women have silently dominated men to a point that it's a common saying: "If a woman is fighting with you (either verbally or physically) you have to take it all and let her win".

I have a couple more but I feel that those 2 are extensive by their own to include more but things like pay difference and all that bs is just comparing A with C instead of A with A.

One last thing tho, I am a strong beleiver that women and men can have equal oportunities and I'm not against being a "gentleman" but I won't do it for just any girl, also, as I mentioned, I wouldn't hit a woman just because (but, if you are either a man or woman, if you hit me or bring me to a breaking point, don't expect me to take it silently, I'll hit you back even if it's the last thing I do).

Anyways, life is equally bi*** for men and women, instead of bitc**** the other side, let's just focus on more important matters.
@Freckles rules  
That too falls under the umbrella of patriarchy , a system largely established and upheld by men, but one that certain women also participate in,,,. In fact, domestic patriarchy is frequently reinforced by women who were themselves raised within it and taught to pass it on.
 
Patriarchy isn't just about men controlling women — it's about a system of roles and expectations that condition all of us, and it survives when both men and women continue to uphold those roles without questioning them.
BiNShy
BiNShy·1 year ago
@Zozo it's the same when men say "who are the ones going to war?" "Why are men the ones who usually die by suicide" it's the problem of the system they created