Comment by 4n0n on You Are My World - Chapter 18

@4n0n I'm genuinely curious about what you mean by this because I understand Suah and Junhyeok but I feel like IVE seen most ppl comment on Suahs faults more that Junhyeok and it's feels more like a blame game to me. Technically Suah gave Junhyeok an ultimatum on what he wanted from their "relationship" and Junhyeok accepted it so what makes it ra**. Maybe I'm not understanding it well because English isnt my native language but like what makes what Suah is doing worse that what they've been doing to each other

@manhwadilfs4life genuinely so interested in your comments under every chapter lo

@manhwadilfs4life By today's standards, if a person doesn't explicitly consent, or if they're coerced into consenting, it is considered rаре. Forceful non-consensual sехual contact is sехual аssаult.

These are things Su-ah has been doing for quite a while, but only in this chapter did people start caring. Until then, Juhyeok had constantly been trashed. Plus, the way they care about it is saying they're simply uncomfortable with what Su-ah is doing, but still claiming Juhyeok had it coming, that Juhyeok deserves a punishment, etc. Basically, the claim is that, because he tried to find a way to fix the problem Su-ah caused by scenting him non-consensually (which is a crime in this particular story's universe) since childhood, he apparently deserves to be sехually аssаulted and rареd. It should go without needing to be said that no one deserves that, even if they're using someone for their own gains ("the gains" in this case simply being Juhyeok getting to experience a somewhat more normal life he could have had if Su-ah didn't constantly scent him for years).

In today's world, a lot of BL fans are heavily against rаре in yaoi, yet in this specific one, they somehow completely miss that happening (unless its Juhyeok SАing Su-ah in that one chapter where he forcefully tried suсking Su-ah's coсk). Only now they're starting to see the red flags, and that's because Su-ah has a halo effect. Tall, dominant but in seemingly gentle way, he's an Alpha, but also can appear "sweet" and has a soft side and cries easily. Compared to Juhyeok, he looks pretty, especially his eyes. Even canonically he's considered to be good looking. On other hand, Juhyeok is short, an Omega but doesn't fit Omega standards (is canonically considered too muscular for an Omega), has facial scar, has cauliflower ears (deformity caused by blunt trauma), and is canonically seen as scary.

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Overall, what this means is the audience's views has largely been shaped by the way characters looks. The one that's more attractive has most of his actions boiled down to "yearning", that he's a romantic, and his bad behavior is excused until he goes a step too far (but it'll be forgotten eventually). On other hand, everything the less attractive character does is seen in worst way possible, he's not being given the benefit of the doubt, his reasons for his actions are ignored, and his feelings are discarded for sake of better looking one.

In terms of Su-ah's ultimatum, Su-ah himself has agreed before to being used, but then kept trying to push boundaries to get closer to Juhyeok. Also, the fact that Juhyeok actually biologically needs Su-ah now (because of what Su-ah has been doing to him since he presented as Omega) means he can't simply reject Su-ah, even though he doesn't feel ready to go all the way (meaning it's not proper consent but actually coerced).

I personally don't consider what's shown in this BL to be rаре though, but that's because this BL has been giving hints that Juhyeok does like Su-ah, so it's one of those "protests and says no, but secretly likes it" tropes. I just don't like the hypocrisy of the people, both in how they excuse or even ignore one character's toxic actions while hating on other's toxic actions, and how in standard BL where the Uke/bоttom is pretty would have people immediately call out the Seme/tоp for rарing Uke but in this one the Uke is blamed for what he goes through.
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@4n0n Ok this opened my eyes a lot. I guess even thought ive read a number of omegaverse stories there were still some nuances I didn't understand. Thanks for the explanation, really helps. Hope I didnt come off as rude or imposing with my opinions. Apologies if I did

@andycandy9 Hope my impromptu debates helps you learn and maybe laugh a little

@manhwadilfs4life Juhyeok came to the school to apologize, and Su-ah consistently made him do stuff he did not want to because he has power over him.

He didn't want to be in the shower w him and he said he didn't have permission to touch his chest. Just because some one says you can do something at one point in time, does not mean you can do it whenever you want.

What Su-ah should have done is said something like, "I don't want to do stuff w you anymore if we aren't dating."
It's weird to want a relationship, never really set that expectation, then manipulate someone into a vunerable situation and act like you are in a romantic relationship when the other person hasn't really agreed to anything.

@4n0n thanks that was really well articulated and exactly what I was thinking.