Comment by Kirrra on darksolace

@Kirrra  sure i'm sorry if that was too complicated i'll try to explain better 😭

girls tend to mature faster mentally than guys, so when I was 19, i f thought and behaved differently than i do now at 23.  
its almost like a mental puberty lool. by  this age, we've often had more life experiences, like with relationships or jobs and friends, that are other adults rather than with other children/teens like we've been doing most our lives. this is what mostly helps us see things more clearly (critically think). interacting with people who are or have already been adults for awhile helps but i mean this more like from a parental or work/college perspective:
our brains are not fully developed for the majority of women until we turn 25 so that means before this age our brains haven't fully been able to really break down, process, and understand our own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. this happens similarly for men but at a much later age (due to societal expectations, etc. but im won't get into that or i might confuse you more)

in case that didn't make much sense still: i'm 23 as i've mentioned, and graduated college almost 2 years ago so i haven't really talked to anyone as young as 19 in what feels like forever because i've never been in a situation where i'd have to (like school). i work around people my age or older and my friends are also adults, so i've gotten used to behaving like an adult. a 19 year old and a 26 year old share completely different lifestyles, it's hard for that dynamic to stay healthy or for you both to even have the same ideals for the relationship when the age balance is that off 

but again, thats just me so i'm sorry for confusing you :(