oh he** no i wanted to start this bc i thought it was cute BUT AGES 19 AND 26??? GIRLLL HE** NO
im dyslexic, in case i make any goofy mistakes :p
Comment by darksolace on Model and Quiet Manager - Chapter 1: Part 1
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@darksolace
the age gap could be worse tbh
and both of them are adults, so there's not any problem with 7 years age gap either
(this is a personal opinion)
the age gap could be worse tbh
and both of them are adults, so there's not any problem with 7 years age gap either
(this is a personal opinion)
@Kirrra i think it's still weird now as an adult, me at 19 was mentally nothing like me at 21 or even 22 and 23. the level of maturity many females go through after their teens comes a lot faster, by the time you're 25, you've already fully developed your brain into fully understanding critical thinking. i just find it strange to be 26 and attracted to someone as mentally immature as a 19 year old. there's not much to have in common
@darksolace
•<• what
uhm like
could you perhaps dumb what you said down? ..please?
like as if you were explaining it to a 5 year old perhaps..? °^°
•<• what
uhm like
could you perhaps dumb what you said down? ..please?
like as if you were explaining it to a 5 year old perhaps..? °^°
@Kirrra sure i'm sorry if that was too complicated i'll try to explain better 😭
girls tend to mature faster mentally than guys, so when I was 19, i f thought and behaved differently than i do now at 23.
its almost like a mental puberty lool. by this age, we've often had more life experiences, like with relationships or jobs and friends, that are other adults rather than with other children/teens like we've been doing most our lives. this is what mostly helps us see things more clearly (critically think). interacting with people who are or have already been adults for awhile helps but i mean this more like from a parental or work/college perspective:
our brains are not fully developed for the majority of women until we turn 25 so that means before this age our brains haven't fully been able to really break down, process, and understand our own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. this happens similarly for men but at a much later age (due to societal expectations, etc. but im won't get into that or i might confuse you more)
in case that didn't make much sense still: i'm 23 as i've mentioned, and graduated college almost 2 years ago so i haven't really talked to anyone as young as 19 in what feels like forever because i've never been in a situation where i'd have to (like school). i work around people my age or older and my friends are also adults, so i've gotten used to behaving like an adult. a 19 year old and a 26 year old share completely different lifestyles, it's hard for that dynamic to stay healthy or for you both to even have the same ideals for the relationship when the age balance is that off
but again, thats just me so i'm sorry for confusing you :(
girls tend to mature faster mentally than guys, so when I was 19, i f thought and behaved differently than i do now at 23.
its almost like a mental puberty lool. by this age, we've often had more life experiences, like with relationships or jobs and friends, that are other adults rather than with other children/teens like we've been doing most our lives. this is what mostly helps us see things more clearly (critically think). interacting with people who are or have already been adults for awhile helps but i mean this more like from a parental or work/college perspective:
our brains are not fully developed for the majority of women until we turn 25 so that means before this age our brains haven't fully been able to really break down, process, and understand our own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. this happens similarly for men but at a much later age (due to societal expectations, etc. but im won't get into that or i might confuse you more)
in case that didn't make much sense still: i'm 23 as i've mentioned, and graduated college almost 2 years ago so i haven't really talked to anyone as young as 19 in what feels like forever because i've never been in a situation where i'd have to (like school). i work around people my age or older and my friends are also adults, so i've gotten used to behaving like an adult. a 19 year old and a 26 year old share completely different lifestyles, it's hard for that dynamic to stay healthy or for you both to even have the same ideals for the relationship when the age balance is that off
but again, thats just me so i'm sorry for confusing you :(
@darksolace
it's okay! No need to apologize for confusing me, I get confused quite easily and quite often aswell
but thanks for taking your time explaining it to me :]
that was very cool of you
I guess I'll understand this more in a few year, me currently being almost 19, like almost almost, in two months almost
it's okay! No need to apologize for confusing me, I get confused quite easily and quite often aswell
but thanks for taking your time explaining it to me :]
that was very cool of you
I guess I'll understand this more in a few year, me currently being almost 19, like almost almost, in two months almost
@Kirrra you'll definitely notice it more when youre older trust, i didn't pick up on it either until i got older but i'm glad i was able to word it well enough for you to understand :) i hope u have a great rest of your week
@darksolace I'm gonna be completely honest I did not feel like this at all even as I got older lmao, I think it's very situational, when you meet somebody who is a consenting adult and do not like them initially I feel like it's much more acceptable, but to like them when you learn of their age is where it kinda gets weird. Once you get past the young teen phase, a few years seems a lot smaller than it used to, majority of couples with age gaps are around 4-7 from what I've seen at least
@lia 4-7 isn't a concerning age gap as adults, that's not the point i was trying to make. i understand where you're coming from because you're right, it is situational, and that's why i explained why it's different when it involves someone like a 19yo with undeveloped social/psychological mindsets. a relationship between a 19 and 26 yo is completely distinct from one of a 26 and 31 yo, for example. both have a similar gap but the dynamic would be completely different for the reasons i stated before. hope that makes more sense!