@Tetiana lmao dude he was shunned out of his high school do you understand? we'll talk when you'd realise the depth of how traumatizing it is to get shunned out of school to the point having to go to whole different school because the guy you trusted and loved said garam tried to sexually abused him into gayness. You say he's insecure? Well seems like you're just like Jae cause even you can't understand how this is all corelated.
Imagine someone getting mock in the whole school bc of their skin colour to the point people don't even touch them cause they believe skin colour is 'contagious' and 'dirty' (and all this happens in a very crucial growing year 14-18yrs) now tell that person who has developed a fear of being mocked for his skin colour that they are just 'insecure and it's a self-esteemed issue. They are not ashamed of skin colour bc they can't just accept themselves. They are ashamed and afraid of the consequences the world can bring to them bc of the skin colour(bullying, mocking, hating) CAUSE THEY HAVE SEEN AND EXPERIENCED IT.
You know the water is hot, so would you go and dip your face into it? Nope, you won't. You probably would have learned from previous experienced that touching hot water hurts. That's how nervous system works. It remembers the things that hurt us. It is not just 'self-esteem' issue.
I tried to explain it well but if you don't undrstand it now then cannot be helped. Your answer is so out of touch with reality that I genuinely had to take a moment to react.
Imagine someone getting mock in the whole school bc of their skin colour to the point people don't even touch them cause they believe skin colour is 'contagious' and 'dirty' (and all this happens in a very crucial growing year 14-18yrs) now tell that person who has developed a fear of being mocked for his skin colour that they are just 'insecure and it's a self-esteemed issue. They are not ashamed of skin colour bc they can't just accept themselves. They are ashamed and afraid of the consequences the world can bring to them bc of the skin colour(bullying, mocking, hating) CAUSE THEY HAVE SEEN AND EXPERIENCED IT.
You know the water is hot, so would you go and dip your face into it? Nope, you won't. You probably would have learned from previous experienced that touching hot water hurts. That's how nervous system works. It remembers the things that hurt us. It is not just 'self-esteem' issue.
I tried to explain it well but if you don't undrstand it now then cannot be helped. Your answer is so out of touch with reality that I genuinely had to take a moment to react.