Comment by strawberrycream on Seohu

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@Seohu what's the biggest problem tho, is not the garam's insecurities, cause i get what he is trying to say, the problem is him not wanting to communicate, he just leaves with only one note😭 the relationship consist of both of them, jyh deserves to express himself too, and garam always makes the yjh the childish one, while he can't admit his mistakes. it's like he thinks he is the only one who struggles, and yjh is careless. when this could be solved if he didn't run away like a child a communicate back. he is not the only one in relationship, he shouldn't be the one to decide for both of them😕. it would be different if he wanted to break up entirely, then it's okay to leave without much explaining. but he expects yjh to accomodate him again (with the so called break without both of them agreeing to it), while blaming him for accomodating to him as well🫠😀 what he is doing doesn't make sense, that's why i can't completely understand him like i understand yjh, cause from this it's hard to defend him, even if yjh has his faults too. anyways you are sweet i love kind and mature people💗, i got flamed many times in comments for not agreeing, so xoxo to you!!
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SeohuChapter Cruncher·2 months ago
@strawberrycream I don’t think Garam’s actions come from a place of wanting to control the relationship. It feels more like he’s trying to protect both of them in the way he understands, even if his way of handling it isn’t perfect. So for me, it’s less about one being right and the other wrong, and more about both of them struggling to communicate their needs properly. I agree that YJH’s feelings shouldn’t be ignored, and Garam should communicate better instead of shutting things down. But I also feel like calling one of them “more mature” or blaming everything on one side oversimplifies things a bit they’re both reacting to their own emotions and insecurities in different ways.

And about your last line thank you, that actually means a lot. I think being able to disagree but still talk respectfully is important, and I’m glad we could have this kind of discussion without turning it into hate. Not many people do that, so I really appreciate your approach 💗