Comment by Seohu on Crossing the Line - Chapter 115

@Seohu your so thrilled hahaha.. 
Yeah indeed love is about two individual people caring ,respecting and understand each other feelings  if you felt something is wrong or unsure about it just end it you don't to figured out if you genuinely love someone There's no hesitation. No matter how hard life may become or there's obstacle along the way if you love someone you will choose it no matter what.

@Seohu YJH doesn't leave the whole world for garam. All the decisions he made were valid and actually well thought off. YJH wanting to quit his job - he didn't take it seriously from the start, it was mainly for fun, and when garam expressed he doesn't like it, that just made him consider it more. YJH not wanting to talk to his family that much anymore - they were rude to him for a long time, they don't take him seriously, they constantly demean him... how is it unreasonable for him to cut most of contact with them? Him leaving the whole world for garam would actually be if he accepted the torment from his family, and continued to take their verbal harassment, just because garam said so and doesn't want them to break off the contact. So no, he didn't do it just because garam was involved, he was tired for a while now, he just finally had someone he could rely on and detach from his family. YJH is the one more mature in this relationship, which is funny, cause it used to be the other way around. One got a character development, one became unsufferable. One became selfless, one became selfish. Garam only sees himself, decides everything by himself, while YJH is there begging for them to talk like normal couple. They don't need a break, they need to break up. Garam has to finally realise his mistakes and for a change do the chasing himself, and YJH needs to stop being pushover and let himself being called childish by garam. I hope this doesn't sound mean, i only wanted to express my point of view, no hate to you reallyyy💜

@Rose Poster  I get what you’re saying, and I agree that love should involve care, respect, and choosing each other through difficulties. But I don’t think love should be only about “no hesitation” or “always choosing no matter what.”

@strawberrycream I get where you’re coming from, and I actually agree with some of your points, YJH’s decisions about his job and his family are valid, especially considering how he’s been treated. Cutting off toxic or unhealthy dynamics is completely reasonable, and I respect that.

@Seohu what's the biggest problem tho, is not the garam's insecurities, cause i get what he is trying to say, the problem is him not wanting to communicate, he just leaves with only one note😭 the relationship consist of both of them, jyh deserves to express himself too, and garam always makes the yjh the childish one, while he can't admit his mistakes. it's like he thinks he is the only one who struggles, and yjh is careless. when this could be solved if he didn't run away like a child a communicate back. he is not the only one in relationship, he shouldn't be the one to decide for both of them😕. it would be different if he wanted to break up entirely, then it's okay to leave without much explaining. but he expects yjh to accomodate him again (with the so called break without both of them agreeing to it), while blaming him for accomodating to him as well🫠😀 what he is doing doesn't make sense, that's why i can't completely understand him like i understand yjh, cause from this it's hard to defend him, even if yjh has his faults too. anyways you are sweet i love kind and mature people💗, i got flamed many times in comments for not agreeing, so xoxo to you!!

@strawberrycream I don’t think Garam’s actions come from a place of wanting to control the relationship. It feels more like he’s trying to protect both of them in the way he understands, even if his way of handling it isn’t perfect. So for me, it’s less about one being right and the other wrong, and more about both of them struggling to communicate their needs properly. I agree that YJH’s feelings shouldn’t be ignored, and Garam should communicate better instead of shutting things down. But I also feel like calling one of them “more mature” or blaming everything on one side oversimplifies things a bit they’re both reacting to their own emotions and insecurities in different ways.

And about your last line thank you, that actually means a lot. I think being able to disagree but still talk respectfully is important, and I’m glad we could have this kind of discussion without turning it into hate. Not many people do that, so I really appreciate your approach 💗