Comment by just.a.gay.dude on (๑˃ᴗ˂)ﻭ Niko

@(๑˃ᴗ˂)ﻭ Niko

 ok but you're mixing up toxic ppl for ppl for calling those weird ppl out. 
There's a big difference between someone preferring a certain dynamic vs a person having a weird mindset.
for example:
"he's a top that's cool. I prefer big tops" same for if they talking abt a bottom or a person's personality that they like. 
vs the werid mindset ( being extremely shocked and acting like you're whole world ended ) & even going so far to talk abt how they can't be a top/bottom.
example: "OMG WHATT HES THE TOP/HE CANT BE A TOP, there's No Way he's a bottom..."
that is weird. Especially because they mean or especially say it in a way where they are generalising gay ppls dynamics for all of them are stereotypical and if it is different then "they can't be this or that" because they are applying their straight stereotypes to gay relationships.
cause they especially say things like "he's too emotional he can't be a top, he's to short to be a top, he's way too masculine to be a bottom, but he's pretty & feminine  how can he be top"
.... things like this have been said by ppl for this bl and other bls and ppl have even made comments like this towards actual gay ppl. Whether it's a character or irl person, saying things like this is entirely DIFFERENT from liking a certain dynamic over the other. 
& if ppl /when ppl call others out on their weird mindset when they say those things , That IS NOT toxic. ( I'm not talking abt those ppl who just prefer reading certain dynamics ) I'm talking abt the actual weird mindset that ppl say.