"if my man didnt control me then i wouldnt control myself" it's interesting to me that you think this is ok actually. obviously i don't know your reltionship but i do know that even if my man didn't say anything, i would never cheat on him because he is my PARTNER. whom i LOVE. how could i ever consider hurting him like that? it's the same with every relationship i had before. i never cheated, and they never had to tell me not to. it just feels obvious that i won't.
also i didn't say YOU said jealousy is good, i said a lot of fiction aimed at young girls is saying it's good for your partner to immediately act jealous just because you talked to another man and that's the problem. and then you went on to say jealousy is good actually.
let me explain more clearly: jealousy in itself isn't bad, but it's not good either. it's an emotion. it's the way they act on their jealousy that's bad. it's the way they think about the heroine as their possession that they can control that is bad. it's the way they get jealous when the girl has done NOTHING WRONG that's bad. in most cases they're not even in a relationship. like i said, this main character just hired the best person for the job.
also i didn't say YOU said jealousy is good, i said a lot of fiction aimed at young girls is saying it's good for your partner to immediately act jealous just because you talked to another man and that's the problem. and then you went on to say jealousy is good actually.
let me explain more clearly: jealousy in itself isn't bad, but it's not good either. it's an emotion. it's the way they act on their jealousy that's bad. it's the way they think about the heroine as their possession that they can control that is bad. it's the way they get jealous when the girl has done NOTHING WRONG that's bad. in most cases they're not even in a relationship. like i said, this main character just hired the best person for the job.
sorry for wrong spelling my phone keyboard is dumb (it's not my fault i swear)