Comment by Thato Mashigo on BeautyIsPain

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@BeautyIsPain  Thank you for your response and I appreciate the civility in your response. I would also like to apologise for my comment triggering you and for the lack of compassion in it. As I was conducting an investigation I wanted or tried to be as objective as possible. 
Now I took the liberty of referring back to the episode you referenced in your argument- and found that Jae stated on two separate occasions for Dan to leave if he didn't want to- or as Jae said "to get out"- however I will agree that Dan could have felt threatened/forced to go along with the act as Jae did also include rhetoric that can definitely be perceived as a threat- so I will agree with you on that point for that first encounter they had. However I continued with the story (again) past the episode you referenced and found that Dan went to Jae's apartment voluntarily (and by voluntarily I mean no one came to his house and forced him against his will to go to Jae's place), secondly he renegotiated the terms of Jae's intial proposition (and from my understanding being forced means there's an absence of choice or negotiation, however I could be wrong) to which Jae agreed however followed that up with a rebuttal/counter proposal of his own. To which Dan agreed saying "A-alright" and saying in his head, "I can do this. I knew what I was getting myself into." And also Jae mentioned the first time when they engaged in carnal activity that Dan crying/whining, etc only serves to turn him (Jae) more on- so the instances you referred to where Dan asked Jae to be gentler, to slow down, etc could very well have been perceived as foreplay to Jae. I do hope however that I am wrong in my analysis- we will have to see if or when Dan's financial situation becomes better if he will continue on- and now maybe Dan truly has no choice as he is indebted to Jae - however I will still have to disagree with the notion that Dan didn't have a choice.

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@Thato Mashigo Sorry! I was trying to like the comment, not dislike it! Either way, thanks for responding. Not many people like to take the time to read long analysis posts lol. It's nice having someone to really discuss the story in depth with. I respect your position now that I understand where you are coming from. Looking forward to more banter in the future! 😊