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@lol 4. She’s giving Banwoo death glares primarily because she is jealous. Let’s be serious. You people getting in your feelings about my disapproval of Haegu’s behaviour seem to think my conception of her character is some long-term schemer and thus jump to pre-emptive defence against this accusation I never made, whilst ironically trying to tell me that I’m the one who can’t read. 

As I recall, the beginning of the series has the teacher make a comment that the kids are becoming of legal age that year (19). Given that Korean age is one year older than international age, that would put Mian somewhere between 18-19 years old. Ergo, five years ago, she was 13, maybe 14. Even if she was 15 years old, there is absolutely no difference between 13 and 15 in the eyes of a normal, functional adult when it comes to perceiving them as viable sexual partners (he**, it’s even hard to distinguish them because they age groups just look like children). Anyone who would disagree with that is either a creep (at best) or a child themselves. You keep bringing up Mian’s burgeoning sexual curiosity being normal, but nowhere did I ever dispute that it is. The only thing I said is that she didn’t have a snowball’s chance of normal emotional (or sexual) development when she’s surrounded by violence, her caretaker insists on facilitating her own murder, and her environment is generally psychologically unhealthy, which is a fact even you yourself agree with.

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@Jay 4. Yes, she is jealous and that's what I meant. She is not directly interfering to isolate Mian from other people, like you said she was. She only tries to separate Banwoo from Mian because she is jealous and that is completely reasonable, but she never actually cut their contact and she doesn't do that to other people, like Mian's friend Juhee. Like I said, isolating Mian from other people would go against what she wants. We are "getting in our feelings" because your understanding of the story is clearly off in some aspects and you can't accept that. Like you literally accused Haegu of intentionally raising Mian in an unhealthy environment and isolating her. That's just plain wrong.
@Jay  "As I recall, the beginning of the series has the teacher make a comment that the kids are becoming of legal age that year (19).". You're right, but if you check chapter 24, Mian had actually just turned 20 at that time.
"Even if she was 15 years old, there is absolutely no difference between 13 and 15 in the eyes of a normal, functional adult when it comes to perceiving them as viable sexual partners". True, that's precisely why Haegu rejected Mian's advances back then, and that would've been the outcome if Mian was 13 or any other age below 19. 

"The only thing I said is that she didn’t have a snowball’s chance of normal emotional (or sexual) development when she’s surrounded by violence, her caretaker insists on facilitating her own murder, and her environment is generally psychologically unhealthy, which is a fact even you yourself agree with." Like I said before, she wasn't really surrounded by violence growing up, and the environment she was raised in didn't hinder her emotional/sexual development or anything. What did have a significant impact on her chance of a normal development were her initial emotions which were all over the place (as expected from a child who saw what she saw). As we see in chapter 49, Mian was very unstable as a child and didn't want to go to school, make friends etc. My point is that that would've happened no matter the environment she was raised in, because wherever she lived Mian would still carry the burden of her trauma. Fortunately, as she grew up, she overcame that problem with Haegu's help and slowly became more and more normal. She wouldn't have friends and she wouldn't be going to university now otherwise.