@Ethan Elliot You know, everyone behaves like that actually. Some are just smarter than others in assessing usefulness and hiding their ulterior motives (even to themselves). You truly never keep close to you people you deemed useless or harmful, just for the sake of the kindness in you heart...Unless, plot twist, you keep 'em close precisely to claim this kindness bullshit so they aren't totally useless then, are they ?
There's also some irony in the fact the more astute people when it comes to social interactions, are appreciated and prefered over the more "crass" let's call it, despite the former being hypocrites while the later are more honest.
@TotallyAbsurd as the kind of person who has moved from one place to another, I can tell you that having that "one person" or that "one neighbor" is important. You can call it ulterior motives, but it's much like a rabbit cannot live without company, you cannot just assimulate into a community without finding a doorway. If you're not at least willing to search that hard, you'll be stuck a loner that only talks to people when you need them. Finding friends in a new community is a pain-in-the-A**, but if you get close to just a single person, even if it's not for friendship, you can easily become friends with others. I still remember getting close to the neighborhood wierdo, just to become friends with the person who walked up to me and whispered "hey, isn't he a little nuts?" we had DEFINITELY found a common ground 🤣
@TotallyAbsurd yeah why would you keep someone around who is a detriment to yourself or whose relation to you provides no value to you? How would you connect to that person or establish a meaningful relationship? If you and another person have a superficial relationship that relationship doesn't benefit either of you and would come off as fake and existing only due to social obligation. All social interactions are a trade. That trade could be deep and meaningful, superficial, or a detriment to one or more parties involved. We much therefore evaluate our relationships and determine which ones bring us positive impacts and which are negative and adjust them as we deem them so. That's how we build healthy relationships or get trapped in self destructive patterns.
