Comment by Not a kitty fan on Home page

hi, hru all?
umm, so I need a piece of advice from yall.
so I'm kinda broke these days, like I've had to buy my semester course, like books, practical notebooks, registers, stationary, got my bus card charged, and my more including hostel dues... the thing is, a friend of mine wants to go out like she has a full day plan, from our morning coffee to dinner, she also planned that we would to site-seeing in our city... it was her birthday last week and I couldn't even give a gift, I told her why I can't gift her anything just yet... she said in exchange we will go out and celebrate her birthday... and she is the type of girl who keeps stuff to herself, like she would feel real down if I refuse/postpone our plan one more time... she is a major overthinker and an extreme introvert, I definitely do not want to hurt her feelings but I cant go out w her just yet....
how should I refuse her w/o making her feel bad about it?

3 Replies

Kim TaegukkieMember·2 years ago

@Not a kitty fan just postpone the plan to visit and invite her to your house and enjoy yourself then go to visit another time..😘

Rick D RollManga Addict·2 years ago

@Not a kitty fan I mean, what do you want? Do you want to go to have a fun moment so then you ca suffer more not being able to afford what you need to buy and probably start cutting off mealsand other daily life needs so then later that would develop into a worse problem(like health problems which then you will have to spend more money for medicines/doctor appointments)? If so, then go ahead.

If she truly is your friend then she shouldn't feel angry about it and she should understand your situation, just remind her that you don't have money to go and sit down with her and explain your budget in details, be sure to remind her that you guys are still friends.

The other option would be that she pay for your share.

But yeah, it's like the gamblers issue, they always end up spending more money than they have and end up spending the budget they need for living.

If she still get angry at you or something like that, maybe you should start to think if that's a true friendship...

Millenia_FairyMember·2 years ago

@Not a kitty fan
Honestly I will just say the truth and ask to postpone the day or just change plans. I'm broke most of the time but I love spending time with my friends. So maybe you can try home activities if you really want to see each other in order to celebrate her birthday
Like board games, video games, manual activities as painting or crochet?

Really don't force yourself to reach all her expectations if you're not in the position to. When the situation will be more confortable for you, you can buy her a really nice gift

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