@Rex8786 So, to start my comparison was totally spot on. He did something messed up to someone, just like a serial killer or a psychopath would (What they did has a different weight; I’m not putting it on the same level as serial killers. It’s just about the way you have to judge the actions of someone who hurts another person). Let's be consistent here; I’m consistent with my takes.
I get that you want to understand the character That’s fine—I also like analyzing characters in all their facets.
But don't come telling me, 'Oh, we can't be mad at him because he had a rough life and hard experiences.' First of all, if you're hurting, you go to a therapist—especially if you're a grown, vaccinated adult. Second, if people leave you, you don't have to force yourself on someone. You take care of yourself and come back stronger and healthier.
There are such double standards in the BL world, I'm sick of seeing protagonists do awful things while everyone rushes to defend them. It’s unbelievable. You’re trying to understand him, sure, but there’s a huge difference between understanding a character and defending them at all costs. I don’t care about his tragic past; if he hurts someone, he has to pay, just like everyone else otherwise,there is no justice.
Honestly, many couples in these BLs just need to break up. There is zero self-respect for the seme—they just blindly chase these npc protagonists around without getting anything back (except for being a simp or for the saints "yearning". They get treated poorly, they're never justified( unless they are so incredibly good-looking that straight girls fall in love with these characters and then try to justify everthing they do).
I don't care what happened to him as long as he doesn't hurt others. If he wants to destroy himself, fine, but don't drag other people down into his tragedy. If you're hurting, go to a psychologist; don't get into a relationship just to drag someone else into your personal h*l. That's exactly what he's doing.
I did understand your perspective, and it makes sense, but it still doesn't justify him. At the end of the day, he is hurting someone. Hiding your traumas under the rug as if they don't exist won't make everything magically disappear. No, they'll stay there; in fact, they'll get bigger and bigger, always bigger, until boom, they explode (it's obvious that not everyone is aware of this; we are all different, we all experience different things—some people get it and some don't. Because of their own issues) have a good day 🤍
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