Comment by BeautyIsPain on Mari

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@Mari I went back to reread that chapter, just in case I missed something, and you are still wrong. Even more wrong now that you compared what happened with David Kim to what happened with Jo.

David Kim drugged Ian and forcefully held him down while gang raping him with his buddies. That's why there were needle marks and multiple hand prints on Ian's arms and wrists in the flashback. He is the person that got Ian addicted to drugs. And it was not a one time thing; they did that to Ian several times. Comparing David Kim's repeated assaults to Ian having consensual s3x with a guy he likes is disgusting and it completely downplays the severity of that situation and the trauma connected to it. You should be ashamed of yourself for even writing that.

Stop making up sh!t just because you don't like a character. Doyak wasn't trying to illustrate the false point that you made. Those flashbacks weren't even right after the camping trip. They took place 6-10 chapters later.

You can call it a difference in perception, but what I explained does happen often and is not considered grape (never called it "realism" btw; you made that up too). Like I said before, the s3x between Jo and Ian was entirely consensual, even if Ian did pass out after he came. Did that make it right for Jo to continue? No. It's dubious consent, at most. But not grape. You just want it to be grape, so that it fits your narrative.

You endgame shippers get on my nerves. You diminish such a well written story down to which male lead "gets the guy" because he's better. It's fvcking stupid. All of these characters are flawed. All of them have issues that they need to work through. The point is that no one is perfect. Humans are deeply complex individuals who sometimes end up in deeply complex situations, just like these characters. But I have a question for you: if TJ had done what Jo did, would you still think it's grape?

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@BeautyIsPain You are so mind-numbingly stupid it's honestly terrifying. Jo raped an unconscious person. He used Ian's body after the man had passed out, and then came on his face without consent. That's not dubious consent, that's not "common in s3x", that's straight-up assault. The fact that you're bending over backwards to justify it is disturbing.

Yes, David Kim drugged Ian and raped him multiple times. And guess what? Jo also used Ian's unconscious body for his own pleasure. The difference in method doesn't erase the violation. Both situations involve someone being taken advantage of while incapable of giving or withdrawing consent. That is ra**. Period.

And the part where you said that if Ian were a real person, he'd consider it consensual? That's beyond disgusting — that's you putting words in the mouth of a fictional victim to excuse assault. You're not just wrong, you're dangerously ignorant. And no, I wouldn't give TJ a pass if he had done the same.

You can wrap it in whatever faux-intellectual nuance you want, but at the end of the day, you're defending a guy who got off on a person who was unconscious. That's not complex. That's not grey area. That's just ra**.