oh g** I DID NOT MEAN it that way✋🏼 I just meant I'm not into switching not that I think switching is bad. Just like I'm not really into short men but that doesn't mean I think they're bad 🥲
Snusnu5046: @Rifath04 it's cuz you make it sound like it's bad to be a switch "their choice not mine"
All of my friends told me the same thing. But it was my first ever relationship so I actually didn't know what to do. I thought, maybe staying by his side I could fix things for both of us. But it was genuinely stupid of me to continue that relationship. But I have learned from my mistakes and I'm never repeating them.
InTheCloset4life: @Rifath04 sounds like he had some serious issues and was not in a very good place. I'm sor
but if you still think I am wrong for getting even a little bit mad at my ex for what he did, I have nothing else to say. Maybe you guys are right. Maybe I am unfit. I would try to change myself for the better but I'm too mentally and physically tired to do that anymore. I really can't do it.
InTheCloset4life: @Rifath04 okay so I don't know full context but if he was really worried about hurting you
okay. Umm, the thing is, I would have no problem if he had just broken up with me. But that's not the case. He didn't "break up" with me. He ghosted me. Step by step. In the relationship, he would be rarely present. Sometimes, I felt like I was the only one in the relationship. He's in gang, did criminal things, did drugs and many more. But I still stayed because he said he was trying to get better and I didn’t wanna leave him just because he's at his lowest. I wanted to support him no matter what. But he ghosted me anyway. 1st he disappeared for 3 days then came back saying he was sick. Then he disappeared again for 1 week. Came back. Then again for another 3 days. Then again came back saying he needed a break. I kinda felt hurt because we're dating, he could've at least told me that was going to go MIA for 3 days. But I didn’t say anything. Just said that he did a good thing taking a break. And that was the last thing I ever said to him. He never texted me back. I tried to reach him but couldn't. I was horrified. I thought maybe he did something or maybe I did something. Then my bff somehow contact him. He told her that he ghosted me for my own good. But then later found out that he did this to every girl he has dated. I didn't ask for anything. I just wanted some closure. He didn't give me that either.
InTheCloset4life: @Rifath04 okay so I don't know full context but if he was really worried about hurting you
