Comment by Rifath04 on Love For Sale - Chapter 59

@Rifath04 you both sound "unfit" to date. Why the he** would you accept a relationship with him if you are suicidal and have mental issues? Just like how he shouldn't have done it to you, please fix that before dating again. You're so busy being hurt over a 1 month relationship, while that dude is probably trying everyday not to kill himself. You don't sound very empathetic or like you have any sympathy. Just because you're just like him doesn't mean you're living the same life.

@Titi it's hilarious how you judged me without knowing me personally. You know nothing about me or my problems and yet made such ridiculous assumptions.

@Rifath04 You really don't understand how feelings work.. it's not as easy as that. If you love someone sometimes you're perception of things warps to fit then in your life. He was struggling with things and all you did was blame him.. a partner would help them.

@Rifath04 okay so I don't know full context but if he was really worried about hurting you so left you in attempt to prevent that I that's not him using his issues to hurt you. What I took from what you said, there has to have been some sort of change in his mental health (ex. It got worse or he didn't have those issues before and once he got them he decided to break off the relationship, or if for some reason your guy's relationship was harming his mental health in some way, whether you intended for that to happen or not) and that's why he decided to break up. I can only get so much information from the roughly three paragraphs you wrote, but I think he's not in the wrong, and I don't think he entered the relasionship with any malicious intentions. I can see how a breakup could be challenging, especially if the person who broke up with you left you for the same issues you deal with day-to-day. I would probably feel mad in your situation, and like my partner was weak in some respects for letting his mental health issues get in the way of our previously happy relasionship (if they were the same issues I had to deal with). But I also strongly believe that is is selfish of you to be mad at him for doing what he thought was best for himself. If someone is having severe mental issues it's absurd to get mad at them for trying to get better.  Also, replying to the other commenter who was saying that they think both of you would be "unfit" to date I want to change their statement to "you are bunfit to date" because, for lack of better words, you sound like a humongous bíțćħ. But, I mean, why would you care about my opinion, I'm just some online commenter.

@InTheCloset4life okay. Umm, the thing is, I would have no problem if he had just broken up with me. But that's not the case. He didn't "break up" with me. He ghosted me. Step by step.
In the relationship, he would be rarely present. Sometimes, I felt like I was the only one in the relationship.
He's in gang, did criminal things, did drugs and many more. But I still stayed because he said he was trying to get better and I didn’t wanna leave him just because he's at his lowest. I wanted to support him no matter what.
But he ghosted me anyway. 1st he disappeared for 3 days then came back saying he was sick. Then he disappeared again for 1 week. Came back. Then again for another 3 days. Then again came back saying he needed a break. I kinda felt hurt because we're dating, he could've at least told me that was going to go MIA for 3 days. But I didn’t say anything. Just said that he did a good thing taking a break. And that was the last thing I ever said to him. He never texted me back. I tried to reach him but couldn't. I was horrified. I thought maybe he did something or maybe I did something. Then my bff somehow contact him. He told her that he ghosted me for my own good. But then later found out that he did this to every girl he has dated. 
I didn't ask for anything. I just wanted some closure. He didn't give me that either.

@InTheCloset4life but if you still think I am wrong for getting even a little bit mad at my ex for what he did, I have nothing else to say. Maybe you guys are right. Maybe I am unfit. I would try to change myself for the better but I'm too mentally and physically tired to do that anymore. I really can't do it.

@Rifath04 sounds like he had some serious issues and was not in a very good place. I'm sorry that you found yourself meeting up with such a high asking red flag? It sounds like a pretty bad situation that should have ended the very moment you realized he was in a gang and not in the best mental state. I'm not saying it's your fault and you should have ended it so you desurve everything, but from what I've heard you both have some issues but he is definitely a walking red flag. I'm not sure if you are a red flag, in which cas the situation would change, but if you aren't someone who's also going through a ton of things similar to that, you probably should have just recognized that you were too good for him and left as soon as possible. That's what I take from what you just said, thanks for the added info it clarifies some things. Though, saying that to someone online does feel a little wierd, like I'm your therapist or something and you'll actually take anything I say into account lol 
best of luck in your future relationships, or at least more luck that that because yikes 😰

@InTheCloset4life All of my friends told me the same thing. But it was my first ever relationship so I actually didn't know what to do. I thought,  maybe staying by his side I could fix things for both of us. But it was genuinely stupid of me to continue that relationship. But I have learned from my mistakes and I'm never repeating them.