@Tetiana now that's not true. I know multiple therapists, I know multiple people who are in therapy, and I've studied enough case studies to know that's just not true. You're implying there's only a one way. It's not a one size for all. For some sexual assault result in hypersexualism, for some sexual assault result in complete sh** down, for some sexual assault turns into guilty which turns into self harm. I'm just giving an example. He's not 'sticking' to it cause he wants to. It's what his nervous system has learn through trial and action. You just don't forget it.
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@starrystar Look, I've never said anything about "only one way". I didn't even elaborate on therapy cases. Sure, all people are different, hence the difference of how hard the weight of their trauma hits them.
Back to our love birds: Garam in fact sticks to his traumatizing experience from the past, and even transfers his way of enduring that pain on Jaehyuk (s. their short exchange on getting outed equals to misery). Jaehyuk is completely other type though, that's what Garam cannot grasp. And that's where Jaehyuk's strength lies: if you yourself view smth as NOT a problem, then it ISN'T a problem. That's very psychological. That's where Jaehyuk is steering Garam.
Back to our love birds: Garam in fact sticks to his traumatizing experience from the past, and even transfers his way of enduring that pain on Jaehyuk (s. their short exchange on getting outed equals to misery). Jaehyuk is completely other type though, that's what Garam cannot grasp. And that's where Jaehyuk's strength lies: if you yourself view smth as NOT a problem, then it ISN'T a problem. That's very psychological. That's where Jaehyuk is steering Garam.