@Rick D. Roll "yeah but we can't really put kids in a bubble and tell them no to a romance between kids"
Sure you can, it's called being a parent. You have to tell your kids what they can and can't do and explain to them why they can or can't do something.
If you find that it's difficult to keep your kids away from drugs because the places that your kids go have tons of people doing drugs, then stop letting your kids go places with lots of drugs. As a parent, you might have to sacrifice and work hard to provide a good enviroment for your children but that's preferable to the chaos of throwing your hands up in defeat and forcing your children to somehow attempt to parent themselves.
@Prinzinc As I continue rereading all these comments, I'm understanding more of what you're saying. I don't entirely agree, and I don't think I ever will, but I apologize for how I went about things. I'm not smart enough to properly convey my thoughts and feelings through text, so I'm just gonna stop talking. But I understand more of what you are saying now than I did before. Either way, I'm sorry about how I came across.
@Prinzinc You are right, is the parent's responsibility to keep them safe and tell them what they can or can't do, but that's different from putting them in a bubble and just say no to the romance (ESL so to explain "putting them in a bubble" is an expression used to indicate a person putting someone else in an environment deprived of almost everything and sheltering them from reality because one believes is the best and in those cases when the bubble burst [or in other words they face reality] then society becomes a hard thing for them to navigate and that's when you see those dumb/overly innocent adults), using your example with drugs, if you just outright prohibit them the use of drugs, when they grow up and in the first chance they get, they will try drugs because they wanted to taste what is the forbidden, however if you tell them why is bad and explain to them why you are telling them to not do it and be a good parent and not leave your cigarette/drugs in a place where your kid can access to them and use it, then it's ok even if you go to the places where there are drugs.
And I say this because some people live in places that it's inevitable and will see all kinds of drugs and prostitution, etc. so the role of the parent is not say no to everything but is to guide them through the right path. Ofc if you can avoid any contact or them seeing drugs/prostitution even if you have to go to those places then it's fine, or in the issue here, if you avoid them having s3x while they still have their relationship, then it's fine.
