Comment by pyrolynx71 on du badu badu

@du badu badu  all men are not predators who are out to get with a girl who's already in a relationship. assuming that a man is gonna make your girlfriend (this is not aimed at you personally, just speaking in general) cheat on you unless you keep her away from any man who isn't her family is harmful not only to your gf bc it means you don't trust her and are accusing her of something she hasn't done, it's also harmful to men in general bc you treat them all as predators. my man and i have many friends who are male and female and we trust each other enough to not assume one is cheating on the other. we have coworkers who are male and female and we don't get angry at each other for talking to the opposite s**. trust is the most important thing in a relationship. assuming your partner will cheat unless you control them shows a complete lack of trust in your partner. 
the same goes for women as well, btw. if i see a female character getting jealous of a male main character for NO REASON (they're not in a relationship or they are but the guy wasn't flirting), it's not cute or sweet it's annoying and i wish authors would stop saying it's cute.
it is possible to be considerate of each other's feelings without controlling each other. it's called communicating. if i tell my man "hey, the way you talk to [another girl he knows] is making me feel insecure" he will say "ok let's talk about it, reassure me that he doesn't feel romantic feelings for the other person and ask how he can change his behaviour so i won't be upset. and the opposite would be the same. he wouldn't say "i think you were leading him on" though, because he trusts that i wouldn't do that. he'll say "i'm upset by the way you interacted" and i would ask him what upset him and how i can change. i think discussing it properly and listening to each other is far healthier than saying "don't ever talk to [someone of the opposite s**] ever again".