Comment by BL addict on Never Understand - Chapter 7

@BL addict

 By all means it's not because you're ugly, however it is your fault. You're face means nothing when you're invisible to the people around you. The reason for being a loner is because you don't put in the work to make friends, I mean think to yourself, how often do you go up to anyone and just start chatting? Probably never, yet that's exactly how the popular people do it. You haven't made your presence known, for reasons I do not know, but that's okay. You're ability to make friends and acquaintances starts with a change in you. You need to go out and make them, because nothing will come to you if you just sit around and wait.

P.s. There's no point feeling insecure over fiction. Especially when its obviously comedy

@Youtan You're so nice! It's rare to find such nice people nowadays.

@Youtan I really mean no harm and i mean this in the nicest way possible (also not to gloat or anything) but i know and am friends with many people and only a handful actually put in the effort to approach and get to know me first 90% of my friendships were started by me either walking up to a random person complimenting them then depending on how they react i can as*** their personality and how to act with them, what to say, how much i can trust them and i wont lie its a LOT of work especially if they are antisocial but i find joy in knowing people and theres this thing that people do where they tell you something small about themselves or they just mumble something and when you remember it and you 'care' about them and what they say you restsate their opinion or even getting to know the stuff they like and enjoy like interests and hobbies and they LOVE it. Their reactions keep me going and in turn they dont hate me only a few people truly know me but when i think about how many people i can make smile or feel better just by remembering the little things gives me true joy even in times of deppression. Does this make me a psychopath? Maybe. But...Does this work? Every time.

Oh and looks have nothing to do with it im average and i went through a stage where my looks and style choice were truly horrendous but i put myslef out there and thats what they cared about. Now that i take care of myself and wear makeup i feel more comforatable being who i am but ultimately its all about being yourself because even if ur a huge dork like me people learn to appreciate it and plus comedic relief is the best part of everything. Even if you arent funny or dumb you can still learn to do things to make people laugh or even smile and you learn to find joy in others joy when you cant find your own. Sorry for ranting. Self love is hard it easier to love others. But its also hard to find somoen who knows your troubles. Everything will work out. Dont feel bad. And once again im sorry for ranting.
 
 

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OMG HI

@Oh hamburgers.. OMG NO WAY NOW IM EMBARRASSED

@Call me Umma  
DONT BE SWEETHEART 😭😭

@Oh hamburgers.. OK DARLING I WONT BE😌🤗

@BL addict dear, it's okay. i promise that 90% of people don't care how you look when you are trying to make friends/talk to them, and the ones that do wouldn't be good friends anyway. I really recommend joining a club for something you are interested in and making friends that way! You'll have a built in common interest that will make starting a conversation super easy. you can do this at any stage of life, too--if you are in middle/high school, there are plenty of activities and after-school clubs, if you're in college, check your school's student org directory, and as an adult (or anything younger), you can join a fitness class (varying levels of ability), join a book club, find a D&D group, or take a class at the local community center. At the end of the day though, it's up to you to put yourself out there. you can do it!