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@InTheCloset4life okay. Umm, the thing is, I would have no problem if he had just broken up with me. But that's not the case. He didn't "break up" with me. He ghosted me. Step by step.
In the relationship, he would be rarely present. Sometimes, I felt like I was the only one in the relationship.
He's in gang, did criminal things, did drugs and many more. But I still stayed because he said he was trying to get better and I didn’t wanna leave him just because he's at his lowest. I wanted to support him no matter what.
But he ghosted me anyway. 1st he disappeared for 3 days then came back saying he was sick. Then he disappeared again for 1 week. Came back. Then again for another 3 days. Then again came back saying he needed a break. I kinda felt hurt because we're dating, he could've at least told me that was going to go MIA for 3 days. But I didn’t say anything. Just said that he did a good thing taking a break. And that was the last thing I ever said to him. He never texted me back. I tried to reach him but couldn't. I was horrified. I thought maybe he did something or maybe I did something. Then my bff somehow contact him. He told her that he ghosted me for my own good. But then later found out that he did this to every girl he has dated. 
I didn't ask for anything. I just wanted some closure. He didn't give me that either.
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@Rifath04 sounds like he had some serious issues and was not in a very good place. I'm sorry that you found yourself meeting up with such a high asking red flag? It sounds like a pretty bad situation that should have ended the very moment you realized he was in a gang and not in the best mental state. I'm not saying it's your fault and you should have ended it so you desurve everything, but from what I've heard you both have some issues but he is definitely a walking red flag. I'm not sure if you are a red flag, in which cas the situation would change, but if you aren't someone who's also going through a ton of things similar to that, you probably should have just recognized that you were too good for him and left as soon as possible. That's what I take from what you just said, thanks for the added info it clarifies some things. Though, saying that to someone online does feel a little wierd, like I'm your therapist or something and you'll actually take anything I say into account lol 
best of luck in your future relationships, or at least more luck that that because yikes 😰