Comment by MaryJane on phatputhycat

  Like I mentioned before, Tj and Ian's relationship is made out of history, trauma , sacrifices , love and emotional manipulation. I haven't said Tj wasn't there for Ian. Thing is , y'all seem to forget the past chapters where Tj is the reason Ian went to prison in order to keep him from leaving the organization, the motorcycle scene that prevented Ian from leaving him, Tj wanting to possess him without actually defining their relationship, and Tj wanting  to pull him back in the dark world despite Ian's desire to leave. Their love isn’t the pure thing y’all try to make it be. It’s only a trauma bond which is made out of attachment from history, instability and great s***ual chemistry. Joe's entrance to Ian's world was a man reacting like any other individual who's never been personally involved in the darker sides of life ; trauma , murder,  promiscuity or drugs. He judged Ian because he hadn't lived his world . He didn't understand that world and he wasn't imposing his own world view, that was the author , introducing the difference in Joe's world. The "normalcy" if you will . A life with both parents, no trauma, no struggle with poverty , and typical going to college .This doesn't mean Joe is perfect for Ian, it means he is a different experience from Ian's norm therefore the approach is bound to be different . Tj has lived Ian's world but that doesn't mean that they are meant to be together just because they understand where and what they've been through . They're literally each others traumas in a cycle. Codependency, attachment, instability, longing, desperation . This isn't healthy even if it looks hot . 

  Y'all associate trauma with love and that's why most people end up in toxic relationships because toxicity and attachment (trauma bonding) is the only languages they understand of love. We are yet to see the darker sides of Joe which can mainly contain of obsession and possession but I'm telling you that in the end, both Tj and him could simply not be good for Ian .

Other than that,  y'all assumed Joe wore the bandage to manipulate Ian as if his bones hadn't actually broken. His hand no longer hurt but that doesn't mean that it was already completely healed due to lack of pain and he's this awful person in need of a tactic . Perception y'all. It's a matter of perception. 

Lastly, if Ian ever felt that Joe was a nuisance and didn't want him in any way, he wouldn't have eventually stopped sleeping around with other men. He's a grown up, he can have s*ex with whoever he wants but he considers Joe's feelings which is why he said he hadn't had s** for a while because Joe  " wouldn't like it." That means Ian feels something for him . He's not being manipulated to consider Joe and he's not a child to be told what not to do. He may not be inlove with Joe  but he likes him. The cu*mming on the face thing is the controversy and from their first s** scene Joe had wanted to c*um on Ian's face. He had asked him but they had done so many rounds that Ian didn't get to answer. Point is Joe gets turned on by that, and c*umming on your patner's face isn't a hideous , dehumanizing thing. In this second scene,  I'm sure the author intended the  shock factor of Joe finishing on Ian's face after he had fainted to symbolize his level of desire and possession. It's controversial but each take depend on your overal perception of Joe as a person and if it's negative, all you'll see is negativity. They were already having s**, Problem is Tj supporters will villainize and nit pick on Joe's actions cause Tj is just this childhood kid who sacrificed himself for love. Please. Let's include every aspect in this narrative