People have a big misconception about an** s** (especially in manga made by str8 women), in fact, it shouldn't hurt, that's why you prepare yourself before penetration, sexx is about pleasure and not pain (unless you like it pain hehe).
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@Sapphire Furuse it definitely does hurt the first few times though
you need to relax completely and have enough lube or it's torture. All of that knowledge/ muscle memory typically only comes with experience and even then, if you're using a toy and it's cold your body tenses around it = pain accidentally get it too hard = pain not enough lube or lube dries = pain too big for your experience = pain get anxious someone's in your guts for the first time? = pain. it's a nice sentiment to say you 'shouldnt feel pain' but typically that's just not gonna happen on your first time.
it honestly, in my experience isn't even fun the first time, I had to force myself to 'endure' for about a month before I actually even slightly enjoyed it, it's such an odd feeling it makes you tense up uncomfortably, which hurts so you tense up more, which also hurts and you get the idea
@Ray Don't worry about it, it changes from person to person, my first an** was really good, mainly because we knew what we were doing?! haha I don't know, but it's important to talk to your partner, especially if he's the top, but thanks for sharing your pov <3
@Sapphire Furuse and that's fine, my comment wasn't to say you're a liar or anything, people have different experiences and no two people react the same
it's just implying that it shouldn't hurt could set people up for failure. if they expect it to be completely smooth sailing on their first time and feel even a slight uncomfortable feeling they won't be prepared and might tense up, hurting themselves. I suppose the besy way to word that is to say your first time would probably be uncomfortable, but shouldn't hurt a lot, if at all.
@Ray Don't worry, I know you weren't calling me a liar or nothing like that :), but you're right about the first time hurting and stuff I guess I just got lucky lol. One more thing, are you really straight? We just talked about an** s** and now I'm confused, no judgment tho.
@Sapphire Furuse there's only one guy who I've managed to love and that was when we were in middle school, he was way bigger than me, muscular and a little chunky at the same time and his hugs just about crushed me. we only dated a few months before I broke up with him because I was moving away from my hometown and didn't want him to wait on me. I moved back in my home town just a few months ago, if I met him again I'd fall for him again and I know it but since him it's only been women. So straight with my one exception?? idk
