Comment by EyeRoll on Kedamonotachi no Jikan - Chapter 31

@EyeRoll hi .... Remember me ...... See , he isn't so bad , he just didn't knew and rather than assuming the worst , he thought she came from a nomal family, like majority of people....... She would have had his support from the get go , if she had just opened her heart to him and explain to him why she hates his family so much , he could have been her support pillar ...... Now u learn something from this , instead of expecting a guy to be a mind reader , tell him what's wrong . instead of avoiding it and assuming that he will get it at the end , simply sit down a have a long chat , doing so will make life easier for both of u ......

@Shadow laws just say you don't understand sexual trauma and go. She was raped DAILY by her father. Excuse her for not wanting to admit that to a man she doesn't even love. He should have taken the fuc**** hint when she literally went dead-eyed and sometimes fainted every time he mentioned her parents. Learn something from this - your partner doesn't want to contact someone? Respect them instead of insisting you know better and retraumatizing them in the process.

@EyeRoll again ....... No one is denieing that she have trama , and i do have empathy for her , but its not his fault ,most likely he haven't met a person with that much trama before , so how is he supposed to just get it ?  and she does kinda have feelings for him , and if not , than it makes my argument even stronger , because than i would ask why is she with him ? Why is she leading him on , because even a blind person can figure out how much he loves her! ..... And again with the he should have gotten the hint , i swear to g** we are not mind readers, and just expecting us to get it when u give us no context, its just unfair , that all i am saying...... I don't get it ,  When u guys have trama , u go to a therapist and talk to them and all that therapist does is sit back and listen to u , instead , why not go to someone who genuinely care about u , and confide in him ...... And if u have trama , why are u reading a fuxked up story like this , because u can probably relate to her, and if u can't tell still , it's not gonna end well for her , no happy ending.... I won't ever want u to suffer , and this is gonna make u sad believe me , now , all this advice i am giving u , because i do care about u , but i am not gonna lie to u like all the other people , everything i have told u , i stand by it , and if u actually follow half of it , ur next relationship might bring u more happiness than ever before , because then he gonna understand ur eccentric behaviour sometimes and can be considerate and final advice , go and read something fun , i recommend, greatest estate engineer...my pfp is from it , u gonna be rolling on floor , its that funny , and i know u needs that ....... My parents taught me to tell the truth , no matter how bitter it is , and stop people from walking towards destruction.......... And u have the mentality that destroys people from core ....

@Shadow laws

"so how is he supposed to just get it" simple, get the freaking hints. She doesn't owe him the full story, she's telling him "please don't contact my parents" and has an extreme reaction every time he does. She sets a boundary and he steps all over it because he has no respect towards it if it breaks his "family so important" philosophy. And he knows she has issues with setting boundaries! He literally knows she had s** with him only because she saw it as a duty, and overall got her agency taken by Hiro. Which means he has to know saying "please don't" is a big deal for her.

She doesn't love him, it's literally in the text. She says "I want to love him" but compares him to Hiro all the time and finds him lacking. They don't have either romantic or sexual chemistry and it's clear she doesn't like him like that, she just finds him nice and wants to be good for him.

"Why is she leading him on , because even a blind person can figure out how much he loves her!"

Um, that's his problem? Did you read the manga with your eyes closed? He proposed to her because he saw her and Hiro, and promised to help her. There was no talk of anything else. If he can't handle it, it's on him and him alone because he's literally the one who has gotten himself in this situation. Airi on the other hand was placed in abuse all her life. I don't know why you're dickriding that guy so hard.

@EyeRoll "i swear to g** we are not mind readers, and just expecting us to get it when u give us no context, "
Your partner has a panic attack when talking about someone, and tells you not to talk to them. You genuinely have to be an idiot if you're missing it. Or just not care. And he notices her attitude. He calls it "not normal" and "broken". Great fuc**** person that one.

"When u guys have trama , u go to a therapist and talk to them and all that therapist does is sit back and listen to u , instead , why not go to someone who genuinely care about u , and confide in him .."
Tell me you haven't been in therapy either without telling me. Therapists don't just sit there and listen to you. They have skills they share that make you develop healthier copying skills, and "right" thinking about the situation. Loved ones don't. And you know what the worst-case scenario is then? They defend the abuser. They think you're a dirty sl**. Like Airi's mom. That literally happened to her and you're wondering why she doesn't want to say anything? Hiro literally had to beat and ra** that information from her. Her whole defense mechanism is denying herself the experience. You're genuinely a child if you're still saying "omg why won't she just disclose the worst experiences of her life to him, even after her own mom shamed her for it!". Like be fr.

@EyeRoll " And if u have trama , why are u reading a fuxked up story like this , because u can probably relate to her, and if u can't tell still , it's not gonna end well for her , no happy ending.."
I do relate and I don't need it to have a happy ending. What's important to me is that the story speaks to me on a personal level and is made very well. It's not a usual thing for me. I rarely can relate, and I rarely think the story is super thought out. That's what is important to me. I feel seen and understood by a story. It rarely happens with real people and yet. It's an amazing feeling.
It's sweet that you're trying to recommend something fun. But in a way that's kind of a distraction than anything else. Being happy by watching happy things is shallow. Even if your life is better, that doesn't erase bad things that happened to me. And if I have only those happy and healthy people around, I will feel alone. Because I am not. That's why Airi relates and loves to Hiro, and why I relate to the story in turn. Sometimes you feel drawn to the worst people, knowing they're bad just because you can understand them, and everything else feels fake and alien. They not only see the best in you but embrace your worst. It's a powerful feeling. Bonds you together at the snap of your fingers.

@EyeRoll "My parents taught me to tell the truth , no matter how bitter it is , and stop people from walking towards destruction.......... And u have the mentality that destroys people from core ...."

And did you ever have to tell them you have been raped by your uncle? Molested by your brother? He**, I don't believe you've never lied to them about a grade, or a horrible thing someone said about them. You seem like a child, I'm gonna be honest. You just don't understand and not willing to empathize with pain so severe. It's about protecting yourself and everyone else. It's good that you have never been in a situation where truth felt like it would destroy you. But they happen. You're stuck on defending people with little empathy because you relate to them. You don't understand how it is to not "be normal". Your mentality of blaming women and thinking "if they haven't told me, it's not my problem" is destroying people with trauma. You even brought up fuc**** Andrew Tate, an abuser and alleged s** trafficker. Is this how you care about the victims? Because I would rather be an open monster than *lie* about your care and then turn around and pull sh** like this. You're faking your care, and faking your understanding. If your parents really taught you not to lie, they would be ashamed of your actions.

@EyeRoll ( sigh ) well i tied.... G** bless u ... U like staying broken, be my guest.... I do feel guilty , yes , after reading about your situation, your family dynamics , i do think that i was kinda blunt and somewhat harsh , i apologise for that . and i am not gonna like , in my 23 years of life , i have not met a person u have gone through what u have gone through....but living in past , not matter how horrible, its just a recipe for sadsness , i know it must be extremely hard to move on , but u have to let go something for the great good... I can just assume , how hard it must be for u to trust someone, but u need to change your mentality from the core to find happiness , and a nice enough guy like yuu , might actually can help u speed up the process.... I am only defending the guy , because u called him annoying and bad or something , which i completely disagree with , even till now he just want to help , ........and tbh ,  guys , for example me , well u were really passionate about defending fm , and u probably hinted it in your replys , about why u are acting the way u are , now when u have finally revealed it , then i can atleast understand why u are on her side , i still don't think fmc is in the right but i get it now ..... And no one is expecting u to open up from the get go , even a little is fine at start and then gradually over time all of it , but u have to give us something to work with , just hinting won't do , men are not emotional creatures like women , hinting can have 10 different meanings and we never wanna expect the worst.....