Comment by Shadow laws on Shadow laws

I wonder where are you from, talking about quotas and stuff like that. Sounds very American to me. In the world outside of the west it's still pretty common for women to be treated like a second class, so I can't share your frustration about feminism as a whole. In my country there are no quotas and it is still expected from a woman to work a day job and then come home and clean, cook and take care of the children. Men also work the same tiring day job, but then they usually have a luxury to come home and actually rest, instead of working a second shift at home. And my country is more or less okay. I'm not even talking about places where women can't walk alone, because they would be kidnapped or raped, or can't walk without covering their faces, or can't get a job and have to rely on their husband's income.

I can understand your feelings about modern feminism to some extent. I've seen enough hypocrits who say they are feminists, but then go and do some misogynistic hatefull things to the women they dislike. But in this case you should criticise hypocrisy, not feminism. Till this day the core idea stays the same — equal rights and possibilities. 

It's totally okay to not be okay with gold diggers, and if anyone gets offended, so what? You can't please everyone, there will always be people who just doesn't like you, and they will come up with a bunch of different excuses to make you feel miserable. It's not like she could sue you for not paying for her dinner, so why even care? 

Plus, I don't think you should compare the impacts of these two cases directly. While gold diggers are extremely harmfull, they take your money, not your life or dignity. And you can still protect yourself from them, making marriage contracts or not marrying them at all, so they won't have any rights for your property.

 

Think about another example. If you are attending a school and you know someone, who is not a sociable person. You also know that they post some hatefull things on their social media and even joke about killing teachers and classmates. Wouldn't that give you an ick? You would probably try to talk with school psychologist about this or maybe report to the police or some kind of hotline, or change schools, or, idk, try something else. This person may be perfectly fine or just depressed. Or maybe not. Maybe they are really trying to buy a gun and fulfill everything they write about. How could you know? You can't read their mind, but you can prepare yourself for the worst scenario. If nothing happens that's great, but if something does happen, you will be able to survive. There are so many stories about school shooting, that I would definitely prefer to mistakenly offend someone than be brutally killed. Not fair, but life is never fair. 

 

Think about another example. If you are attending a school and you know someone, who is not a sociable person. You also know that they post some hatefull things on their social media and even joke about killing teachers and classmates. Wouldn't that give you an ick? You would probably try to talk with school psychologist about this or maybe report to the police or some kind of hotline, or change schools, or, idk, try something else. This person may be perfectly fine or just depressed. Or maybe not. Maybe they are really trying to buy a gun and fulfill everything they write about. How could you know? You can't read their mind, but you can prepare yourself for the worst scenario. If nothing happens that's great, but if something does happen, you will be able to survive. There are so many stories about school shooting, that I would definitely prefer to mistakenly offend someone than be brutally killed. Not fair, but life is never fair.