Comment by Jonghoseok on Wave Nail - Chapter 6

@Jonghoseok   They're cursing on him because he's abusing his kid. You can feel bad for him but his actions shouldn't be justified for hitting his adult kid and then locking him up in his room. That is very controlling and abusive.  If he truly cared for his kid, he wouldn't be locking him up.

@Transy Did I said that I justify his actions? Can you read my comment properly before replying, I clearly wrote as a parent his fear of loosing his child to the sea specially when he is already is suffering a trauma of loosing his wife obviously make sense why he is getting blunt over taking any action to prevent his son from going there and loosing his life not to mention this man is living with this trauma for years and people around him feeding this guilt over and over again. If you have any basic idea of psychology or sense you will understand the action are not taken in meant of abuse but due to utter fear and love for the only family he has. 
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@Jonghoseok  I didn't say that you were justifying his actions, but the fact that you are saying "Think it from a point of a parent before shi**** on him and calling him names likes a a*** seriously" and the "Why is everyone cursing on the dad". Like you didn't see him just hit his own kid and lock him in a room. That is abuse and nothing excuses that. Your comment is dismissing victim's trauma. I understand that he's going through a hard time but don't use that as a excuse for the abuser with "due to utter fear and love for the only family he has". They're abusers out there that think they're a good person and say that they're doing it (harming) because they love you or they care about you. Sometimes they might mean it, but they're still harming the victim. Your comment is very insensitive even if you didn't mean to be towardsabused victims.

I do realize that the first part of my original comment does say "justify", I just wasn't meaning you in particular. Your comment didn't feel like you were trying to justify his actions, it sounded more like your were trying to excuse his actions.

@Transy Bro first thing he is not abusing his kid at a level of excessive trauma one you are literally exaggerating it, I don't know your brought up background but parents specially who are strict do use measures like punishing kids through beating or making them stay at their room of which I still say that actions are not justified specially in general style, over here it's totally a psychological stressed father who is obviously going to prioritise his son life over his actions, and being honest his son is also not very innocent he has bare communication relationship with his father blaming him for all, I can get it with a point that he lost his mother at an early stage so he is not fully matured to deal with these situations or how to communicate so is the father with all those trauma. But

what in the world will you expect from a father psychological stressed for over 10 years suffering day and night from the same trauma literally warning his son continuously to please not to go over the sea his biggest fear to loose him too, what the son does not only he goes he returns way to late (just imagine the utter fear during that time the father must suffered) and even after that is pushing the fact on his face again and again that he will go again (he surely can go again to retrieve, but is the kid so childish that he doesn't understand how to deal? Or his father? That if he will act like that again obviously the dad will take strict steps then) What do you think as helpless as a father that man can do more huh? If your son is not even responding to your words? Getting vanished in the sea and all. Obviously makes sense why his last resort as a parent was to take any extreme step to prevent his child from future harm and addition to his trauma he went on to that level. His actions were not done in motive to abuse his kids which is really extremely childish if you people think, it was his extreme fear and safety for his son the only family he wanna protect. Psychologically and basic sense wise it do make sense why the parent took that step , being unjustified action is one thing but no where u got the right to call his fear, love , trauma, and emotions in name of a****hole. If that father didn't gave a da** of his son going to sea coming late and going again afterall the past incedente then calling those names will make more sense cause then he would be a father with bare care and love for his son's life.

The problem is you are seeing just one victim and that's the son you barely understanding a parent victim phase to his trauma and why psychologically his actions do makes sense even if not very justified. Infact I find the son more in fault cause clearly a man suffering 10 years of trauma, like he literally sav with bare eyes his wife being gobbled away by the sea amd how the rest of the village over the past years is just continuously feeding his guilt again and again, with that da** environment you raise a son alone who grows up telling you again and again he will go to the sea body, he will get his mom back ... Are you seeing how badly he is also at the end feeding his father worst trauma and fears? It's great he wants to retrieve his mother's body or want to proof the fake superstition but why th will u say it to a man who is the most against it and the most traumatized? Is he still a naive kid to fail to understand the psychological stand of his father's health? And on top of that not only he goes he returns late and again starts to feed the same trauma again and again omg seriously...bruh as psychology student u don't know how much it pis*** me when a own family members doesn't understand their family members point of trauma and what to mention what to not , his actions literally shows he is a stubborn child bare to no understanding of father and obviously zero idea of communication. Lastly obviously that man got totally feared, he obviously balmed him that another of his failure will cause his son life to and in that environment he did whatever he find could stop his son from a suicide act. And then the son is suddenly the only one victimised while u guys totally ignore the fact of how continuously his father was mentally victim both the present act of son to the past trauma and carry on to call his a****** and u telling me it makes sense and he deserves it bruh? Touch biased over kid but nothing to a parent huh?

Nowhere I justified him fully over his actions, and me saying not to call him disrespectful curses i don't get what logic says that I am siding against the son (as one of the victims) seriously 
In the end both are suffering it's not like only the son is suffering the father is also equally suffering and maybe worse seeing his actions...so please don't think that my point of pointing those people against there language is anywhere wrong, you surely have the right to unjustify his actions but u don't have the right to name him seriously cursing him over his condition with a**** just because it's not feeding the storyline of ur taste and is actually showing a very practical and common thing about a mentally and traumatized person mostly like ptsd suffering one

Thank you

@Jonghoseok  I feel like the reason why his son hates/blames him is because his dad is an alcoholic which alcoholics usually harm the people around them. Which it can effect the son and in the next chapter, it's in implied that his dad has done this before. Like I said before, you can feel bad for him but don't use the "what in the world will expect from a father psychological stressed for over 10 years" "Just imagine the utter fear during that time the father must suffered" because that is reason why I'm thinking that your excusing his behavior. When you look at both sides, the father does have trauma from his partner's death and he uses alcoholic to cope with trauma while the son is understandably upset at him for locking him up even though that he is an adult and should make his own decisions. And when he told his dad (who is drunk) about his mom, instead of listening to him, he yells at him, hits him, and locks him in a room with no means to escape. With that in mind he is an abusive alcoholic dad, he may have good intentions in mind but doesn't mean that he is in the right. His dad is not a victim for abusing his son, he's only a victim when he was at his wife's death. I am saying this as a emotionally and physically abused victim.

@Transy ever seen cases where a victim suffering from any psychological disorder wether ptsd , dual personality etc never receive the actual common punishment of crime but are mostly send of to mental asylum for treatment. Cause in this cases the person is blind over the fact of consequences and is doing action only based on a motive resulting of a trauma or disorder which can be both healthy and unhealthy. Their is a reason why I said his actions as general are no where to justify on which u don't even make a point to debate on me cause I already have said that clearly. The further I added was to not call a father suffering from ptsd and disorders names like as****** and literally cursing him on which u are blindly having ur own believe that I am siding against his son when I am clearly saying that "both are victims" no where is his son also correct over his blunt actions over a mentally unstable person, and no where is the father also correct for turning alcoholic and not being a good father which practically in his case does make sense why is he failing. I will stand on my psychological based points because clearly u can't take that man at a same position with someone who is actually healthy with life doing actions that are actually abusive. If you still believe even with his case and all this basic psychological practical sense he is being abusive that's your opinion and I will have my opinion that his actions are rough but his motive is towards fear and protection and not a typical abusive thing done to harm a child, and I don't need you to call me over on it as excuse because atleast I am siding and viewing both person in more of practical and logical sense studying overall and not just biased based on actions.